We usually think of anger as a negative emotion. According to the Bible, the intemperate expression of rage (wrath) is considered to be a vice, one of the 7 Deadly Sins. However, at EvaSins, we believe that anger is a constructive and positive emotion that we should not be afraid to embrace. As long as they are used for the right purposes, all emotions can have their upsides.
It is true that sometimes when angry, we do stupid things. We lead ourselves to a self-destructive or negative behaviour without noticing the risks. Many of us are even trying to hide or repress it because sometimes it can be rather difficult to control.
We tend to forget that this emotion is never there without a reason. Imagine a world without anger, where there is no emotion to express how injustice feels. Expressing our anger is a way for us to present our frustrations to the wrongdoers (injustices, insults, disrespect, exploitation).
Many are the mental health professionals who support the idea that anger can be helpful or even healthy. Just like all the other emotions, it has its purposes and it can be used for a good effect. When we use it in a constructive way (when it is not used to vent bad feelings), anger can consist of a way to resolve a problem.
It empowers us and makes feel the need to be in control. Our angry emotions can provide the necessary information and self insight that will allow us to better engage with the situation. As a result, it will lead to the first step in negotiating a solution to the problem and be closer to our goal.
Constructive anger is also associated with optimism and positivity. When we feel angry, we are more positive about our ability to change a situation. As a result, we begin to focus on what we are trying/hoping to achieve.
“The angry man is aiming at what he can attain, and the belief that you will attain your aim is pleasant.” —Aristotle
To conclude, the hardest part about practising constructive anger is being conscious of how we feel at the time when a situation causes us this particular emotion. The real challenge is not to repress our feelings but to channel that energy towards solutions.